Arrange Marriage: What’s Sex Like on First Wedding Night?! – Wedding Advice #17
The first wedding night especially after an arranged marriage can be awfully awkward. If you’ve watched Honest Wedding Videos by AIB the dialogue “I will be seeing a strange naked man tonight” that is ‘honestly’ blurted out by the bride while she bids her family adieu will straightaway hit your head. As much as this moment may be trying, it’s your first shot to get intimately comfortable with your life partner.
Don’t look at your first night as a moment that’s just about love making. It’s much more than that. It’s about you exploring your partner’s emotions and literally seeing them as they are.
While we’re not experts to tell you the details of what is sex like on first wedding night in an arranged marriage, we can definitely advice you on what you must – read in bold MUST – avoid on your first night. Here goes!
Don’t Rush Into It
Don’t be a tigress ready to pounce, instead give subtle signs to him to hold his horses too. As it’s equally awkward for both, try to ease in the situation by relaxing a bit given that you both will be tired with the whole pomp surrounding your big day celebration. Start with some small talks like reminiscing a funny incident which occurred during the celebration or simply complimenting each other and proceeding to sweet nothings that kick-start the romance. This will help you build up the drive of the night.
Don’t Sit to Have a Q & A Session
ANote that small talks means extremely brief conversation here. Don’t sit down as though you’re at an interview desk passing a Q & A session to bag the jackpot salary. You have your whole life ahead together to know each other better minus the formality. Your first wedding night is simply not the right time for you to entangle in a formal conversations. Keep the long talks for some other day. Your partner isn’t running away anywhere, at least not tonight. :P
Don’t Blurt Your Ex’s Name
The worse of all blunders you could commit at this very special moment of your life is blurting out your EX's name and triggering an unpleasant conversation. Stay away from any talks of the past that could kill your sex drive. Knowing if your partner has ‘done it’ before or not isn’t going to help boost the moment either. Getting to know such details should be your criteria before tying the knot and not on first night. So relax and soak into each other’s company focusing more on how memorable you can make this moment.
Money Talks – Strict NO-NO!
You must’ve spent a grand moolah on your wedding, but your first wedding night is certainly not the right time to bring this topic out. Talks related to money matters are sensitive. You definitely don’t want to be digging into your spouse’s bank balance at this point of time. Such things have their own time to trigger the discussion, not when you both are looking for some soft chance of intimacy.
Don’t Bazaar Your Fantasies
You thrilled reading/watching 50 Shades of Grey. Don’t lie; we know you imagined yourself to be Anastasia Steele while flipping through those pages or scenes and fantasizing about Christian Grey, vice versa. Now that you have your dream partner right next to you take it slow and explore your lovemaking fantasies eventually, not on the first wedding night itself. This is not the only night you’ll be spending together. Why should you not hush with these fantasies right away? Well this could lead to some performance issues here. Disclose the wild surprises progressively to keep the fire burning.
Good Luck! ;)