How to Deal with People You Don’t Want To Invite To the Wedding? (But Have to!) – Weddingz Advice #10
Preparing your guest list can be a fun or a not-so-fun job for some. After months, probably years of planning and making a major investment in your bridal lehenga, venue and the works, you would want to get hitched without a glitch and of course with people whom you think should be a part of your big day.
However, there are those nosy neighbours you don’t like who have been dropping home every now and then since they got the news of your wedding or those over-friendly, wanna-be-cool friends of your parents who just don’t believe in acting their age and still treat you as a small kid or your work colleagues whom you simply can’t deal with in peace – be it work or otherwise – whom you don’t want to, but are forced to send out your wedding invitations.
As much as you would not want these people to be added to your guest list, you’re left with no choice whatsoever to make some room in your list. So today we give you some advice on how to invite and deal with people whom you don’t want to invite to your wedding, but still give in.
Your Parent’s Friends
There are these particular friends of your parent’s whom you think are simply annoying and tend to take unruly liberties of cracking a silly joke out loud about you or reveal old times stories that are nothing but the most embarrassing thing to tell all at least not on your wedding day. Keep them away from giving any wedding speech and set them in some dark corner plied with groupies who can soak up their silly jokes.
Loud Mouth Neighbours
So, your next-door-neighbour has got the news that you’re getting hitched. You guys have never spoken for years, simply exchanged smiles or a hi and bye here and there, and now since the date to your big day is approaching they have been giving you the stairs and signs to be invited to your wedding. Since you’re the friendly neighbour kind, you give in and invite them in spite of knowing how they keep poking their nose in others business. It’s best to treat them like any other guests at your wedding and yet not get over-friendly.
As much as you would love to have a wedding without kids, at an Indian wedding it’s just impossible as parents don’t tend to keep their kids away for that long. Indian weddings are a 2-3 or a week long affair, thus the kids tag along no matter what. If you have lots of kids attending your wedding, have someone responsible assigned to take care of these mischievous bunch. It’s wise to keep the kids engaged in activities like colouring or pot making while you have your pre-wedding celebrations on. For the reception you can keep a candy station for kids that will keep them busy around that corner keeping them away from not making a ruckus throughout the event space.
Troubled Friends/Family Members
Weddings can be depressing for people who have just gone through a break-up or worse yet a divorce. With these ‘troubled’ people being either your close friends or relatives you cannot miss out on inviting them at your wedding no matter how hard it gets. Whether they choose to attend it or not is ultimately their call. If they decide to show up, ensure they’re never kept alone and are always in groups busy chatting or engaged in activities. This will divert their mind and keep them happy throughout your celebration.
Alcohol Guzzling Friends and/or Relatives
If you’re serving alcohol at your pre-wedding or wedding celebrations and you know there is this particular mausaji or your old college pal who will be attending your celebration is going to create a good loud show once drunk have few reliable people from your bridal party taking care of such not so pleasant scenes. Practice a code word or a sign with your bridal party responsible to handle such a situation, which you can simply hint in between your celebration without making a big scene and know that they will take care of the rest.
Work Friends or Boss
Inviting your work friends or boss is generally considered the right thing to do. While you can’t be around them throughout the celebration, ensure you introduce them to your parents once and then look to it that they’re all grouped together and don’t feel awkward in the presence of your close friends or relatives. If you’re inviting them to your pre-wedding celebration make sure they get engaged in the activities and have a gala time.